When we tell our children what to do, what cannot be done, notes that children are also said to us, \"YES\" and \"NO\"? Parents seem to tell children what to do every day, what not to do, in fact, children are growing up will also form their own ideas, psychologists did not use the language of their mind summarized as \"shaking heart.\"
(1) do not hear my cry and ignored me.
While the children were crying, adults often find it very annoying, but if you just picked up a toy or food for him, and unable to meet the genuine needs of children, young children need adults in side with his playing, and talk to him. Adult understanding children, will have to do time of observation, you might as well in those people children \"don\'t cry\" and \"honest\" before, but also from the perspective of children about his sad mood.
(2) do not only when I do the things you don\'t like, didn\'t notice my existence.
When in quiet State of children, adults often indifferent and child show when naughty or hyperactivity, but will immediately attract the attention of parents. This child discovered: \"only in my naughty attempts, parents didn\'t notice himself. \"This can lead to negative behavior of children emerging, so that more naughty adults feel that today\'s children.
(3) Please do not accuse me of \"idiot\" and \"stupid\", and tell me what to do.
\"Really stupid! \"Is the mantra of some parents blame their children, even if the heart is not really think that, often, it\'s very small. Children come into this world, showing self-assessment is fashioned from a reaction from those around, if often heard him \"bad\" \"clumsy\" words, made him a value is not optimistic enough to itself, and in trying new capability on the performance of large discount.
(4) Please don\'t leave me in strange places.
If children for rearing environment is not familiar with, they do not understand people who take care of him, this experience to the naive mind is certainly a trauma. Because children can\'t understand parents to go there, more worried about their parents and never return. Be shy with strangers, stick man, children often fear the most experienced such early life.
(5) do not often give me candy, toys, books, instead of your own.
Parents at home and do some children often cannot participate in the work, or to do what they like and ignore the children. However, children are most in need and parents share time, candy, toys and other articles are not a substitute for good stories of MOM and dad with their games.
(6) Please don\'t force me to eat good food and you think that something to eat.
Chinese people are very focused on eating, think child eating is more important than other issues. Diet, originally for their health, make people more dynamic if children spend too much time and energy on meals, and the rich environment try to reduce, for child life goals is putting the cart before the.
(7) Please don\'t kiss me, praise me today, tomorrow and blame me.
Some parents mood swings are large, good mood on children dull; emotional bad, is a slap in the child, the child has experienced such a strong emotional feelings of the outside world, will have a great deal of unrest.
(8) Please don\'t too much in my wayward, unreasonable performance, but relaxed constraints to me.
Children sometimes as, vexatious, if the principle of not adhering to already inform children in adult, then the children will fight for him in various ways to achieve the goal of which leads to parental worries. You know, quiet child was from the authority of the home. Authorities here did not mean autocratic, but allow children expression of the will, and the final decision rests with the parents on a unanimous decision. Research shows that this form of family education on child social adaptation abilities quite effectively.
(9) Please don\'t kid me, threatening me, I can\'t promise.
Some parents feel that: \"children do not understand, could fool him let it go. \"Or intimidate children:\" never to be honest I\'ll refer you to the police! \"These practices are leading to children on parents \' words and deeds of trust.
(10) fight please don\'t ask me why, why, and still busy with your work.
Children when their small problems occur, adults easily blamed response immediately. However, the rigid attitude of parents, children often feel their own problems of small, often inferiority. So, look children make the cause of the error, review the parent-child of coexistence between all possible, is the place where modern parents should carefully.
