Why so many parents feel difficulty in matters of children talking about? this is because many parents feel that their knowledge is limited. Some parents think about sexual issues, less child knows, the better, worry about talking about these issues to their children will lead them to prematurely attempts to have sex. Then there are many of us parents never had with their parents about sexual topics, don\'t know how to say to children. Therefore, as a parent, you should learn some relevant knowledge to enrich themselves with, understanding and knowledge relating to sex education. Have sufficient knowledge, and confidence only when children talk about sexual problems. Parents \' confidence is the key to easy and effective implementation of sex education.
How to talk about problems with the children, here are some ideas for parents \' reference.
(1) teach the correct name
To teach children as possible correct names of the various parts of the body, such as penis, vulva, and so on. This will help you more accurately and easily with the children of Exchange issues. Correct name to various parts of the body also helps you to interpretation what is sexual abuse of children. Children can also clearly to you speaking of sexual abuse occurs.
(2) don\'t wait for questions
Sometimes parents feel their children do not always ask questions. In fact, sometimes there is no need to wait until questions began to talk about the children. Parents can use side or to discuss events that occurred in the community together with the children. To the child expounded his views on some issues, and to avoid some problems arise, should take preventive measures, and the incident should be taken of the methods to solve the problem.
(3) when you do not know when to admit it
Sometimes face the questions raised by the children, don\'t know how to answer, or simply do not know. It doesn\'t matter. Children admit they don\'t know. Good approach is to search together with the children, to look for answers. Through this also allows you in front of the children and establish an honest, problem-solving model for kids.
(4) as important as you do and you say
Attention parents of children from adults who are non-verbal information. Such as mutual respect between husband and wife, loyalty, share responsibility for housework, cherishing, helpfulness, decorum, to work serious and responsible, honest, and so on will be passed to children by parents \' behavior.
(5) respect for your child
Following discussion of three important factors, these factors will influence your child how to deal with youth and adult sexuality. These three factors are: dignity, privacy, and how to make a decision.
Helping children build up self-esteem
Self-esteem is positive self concept, is a respect for themselves and the like. Good self-esteem is a very important part of mental health. Recognition of and support children to establish self-esteem, criticized adversely the children build up self-esteem. Parents in helping children build self-esteem seems to have a natural ability, you see, when a child initially tries to talk or learning to walk when the parents give their children a great deal of encouragement. Child\'s self-confidence, self-esteem needs from parents encouraged, and this requires continued until puberty.
Research has shown that in foreign countries, strong self-esteem, feel good, young people believe they are worthy of respect and very few compared to other youth and sex-related issues. Pride of strong youth sex age delayed until more mature age began. Therefore, paying attention to the self-esteem of the child, this is a very important part of his mature.
Respecting children\'s privacy
Privacy concepts should be from the start of the sexual education of children from the time teaches him. A toddler when he was told certain things while others are not active, he has a certain concept of initially refused. Children, genital mutilation is a human\'s Privacy site, without our own permitting other people the right to see or touch the parts. Tell children not to touch the other person\'s genitals.
When telling children when adults need privacy, but also the power to give them privacy, it is very important. This means that respects the privacy wishes of the child as early as possible, when they grow up, you should fully respect their privacy. This means that when children go to school not searched their rooms, do not read their diaries and letters, not secretly monitoring them. Allow children to have their own ideas and practices.
In discussions with the children to pay attention to some problems, not too many comments, to let children feel, parents are willing to listen to their ideas, dialogue on an equal footing with their parents. So kids what would you say. Parents can put their own values and standards clearly told to the children of judge right from wrong.
Help children learn how to make a decision
Developing the capacity to make decisions and self-judgment is also a very important content of sex education. Our children make sexual decisions, most of the cases were privately made, that is were we not made in the presence not guide them. As children grow older, encounter situations and make decisions become more complex. Skills of parents to teach children to make decisions, tell children about information, values, confidence, how to do it will have the best results and make decisions as early as possible so that they can have their own practice skills opportunities. In learning in the process of decision making, increase their sense of responsibility. Support children made a decision and to respect their choice is also very important.
During puberty or adolescence before most children facing sexual situations, had to make their decision, he may want to know what is a security appointment or social outings, what situational lurking danger of sexual abuse. How to make better decisions on some situations will depend partly on their skills and confidence in children\'s early development.
