Early admission, regardless of the baby and not, MOM hanging heart is what is difficult to put down. Who can give MOM an assurance, was swept away by mother\'s anxiety?
1 baby mother anxiety after admission, suddenly found the baby did not really have the ability to kindergarten.
Working Party Mr and busy after the birth of her baby in an aunt home in the country. Free little thing looks very strong, kind of rural health specific to baby skin. After two years, the kindergarten education, Lady took baby come back, throws into the procedure.
Admission day, teachers and children to new mid-course comes in little guy held a welcoming ceremony. Can little guy did not speak, nor crying, just curious to look at all this. Mother see baby so stable, let alone have more pride in the heart: baby don\'t be shy with strangers, I can go. Baby was not followed my mother go, everything looks normal. However, the kid had suddenly found problems when the noon meal, start yells to go home and cry louder, not eating or sleeping. The next day, Lady then took baby to the kindergarten, baby death does not do. Mother angry: \"kindergarten children and Toys more than rural, there is teacher taught you knowledge, why don\'t you go? \"Mama said, baby, but the end result could not be delayed, baby still have kindergarten every day.
Thanks to this class has only one baby is newborn, kindergarten also sent a teacher specifically to look after him. Little thing is not to be in the classroom every day, go all day in the garden. Other kids have a NAP, teacher or take him around. The other kids woke up and started in the game, and he turn tired himself lying in bed asleep. Raining outside, teachers moved two tiny stools, with him sitting in the corridors of the rain, has been reading about in his mouth: \"home, MOM, MOM, go home. ”
Analysis: now many mothers because of work stress and foster relatives home baby, or nanny to help look after the baby. Look at the baby leave the mother is healthy and happy, particularly assured for baby, but also for baby\'s development, needs, and so not know much about, and judgment on the ability of baby deviation. In particular, those usually active, don\'t Be bashful baby, mothers easier to ignore the baby before admission adaptation. Even though the baby in the other\'s ability to have \"compliance\", but on the psychological qualities, he is the same as most of the baby, cannot avoid separation anxiety.
Anxiety mitigation method:
As soon as possible in order to enhance the baby adapt to life in the kindergarten, mother should focus on training the ability of baby:
Living--baby eating own spoon to eat mainly to adults occasionally feed supplement; can obey your own, or know the teacher had to obey, parents also prior training baby squatted pits or sat; on its own or combined with adults dressing; able sleeping cots, initial NAP habit habits.
Language--to speak more clearly; understand the teacher a certain language, facial expressions or actions after feedback; adult\'s inspired, can be simple to express their feelings of discomfort.
Collective occasion--dared to speak on other kids have simple compassion; know not \"fight, smashing, and looting\" manner of the children.
Psychology--on the outside with the kids for a while, not too attached to their parents.
Anxiety 2 baby at home mother being chongguan, to the kindergarten, but cannot give baby love like a mother.
2 and a half day kindergarten. Mother was not comfortable with, and must look after every morning to eat breakfast every day to go at night time not to receive baby, she went early, want to see how for dinner every day. Teachers tell the mother that do not fit, after tell mother this morning sent to safely walk, teachers will make her eat, won\'t get any early in the evening came, so as not to have an impact on other baby eating emotion. Because, this time baby is looking forward to the parents of the first to pick up, look at other people\'s mother and her mother did not come, they don\'t do the dinner. Furthermore, it goes on, baby will be more difficult to adapt to life in the kindergarten. But mothers refutes: \"I have kindergarten on the baby is 3 months, there is no garden stools, Lira fecal dry a leg at home, sometimes 3 days is a stool, what is going on? \"The teacher said,\" baby exercise, drink plenty of water and do not like sports every day, always sit, drink less water, good habits of life are not fully established. \"Mother said\" is not the case, he\'s good bowel regularity, mainly after kindergarten freak out, lack of maternal love and affection. \"The teacher asks:\" what we do care and care for the baby all day, do not give baby love and affection? \"Mother said\" this is your work, with love and affection are two different things. \"The teacher no longer answered, but it was very bad.
Analysis: baby new admission, unfamiliar with the teacher on the environment, the teacher baby strange, mother worries are reasonable, especially think of baby in front of a kindergarten teacher, cannot be the same as with my mom at home together, abandon snuggle, and spoiled child, mother\'s heart couldn\'t help sour. Look at baby look of worry about mother left, little fear of arrangements to listen to the teacher, mother also have some taste in mind: \"Hey, there\'s only good mother! Leave the mother baby well hurt! ”
Many new admission are constipated baby phenomenon, mainly baby life not apply echo caused by anxiety, homes work together over time can help baby adjustment. \"Lack of maternal love and affection\" is the natural parents of the \"vocabulary\", but not on the preschool professional judgment of \"rational terms\".
Anxiety mitigation method:
On concepts to understand the differences between teachers of love and motherhood. Mother love is great, but the baby to grow up healthily cannot rely solely on mother also love of teachers and students
Accept moderate sense of distance between the teacher and baby, baby space conducive to access to education, cultivating self-care ability and independence of the baby.
If you find teachers some of the realities of baby care and not too close to, can communicate directly with the teacher, helps mutual understanding between each other, discuss the right solution.
Before the baby is not revealed their dissatisfaction with teachers, maintain the trust of teachers in baby heart and love.
Mother on anxiety baby 3 kindergartens, a long time is hard to get rid of separation anxiety.
Tintin kindergarten 2 weeks more, most of the baby has adapted to the kindergarten of life, but he is on the way to kindergarten every day with tears dancing, a Deputy cannot be separated from the mother\'s grievances. To the parents of baby time, even if the mother almost every day of the first one to get to kindergarten, Tintin is always on the side of little jobs while staring at the door of the classroom, looking forward to the mother figure to hurry there, even on a grilled meals are too lazy. Occasionally caught the day mother a little to late for a few minutes, put beisheng kid must be large, and made other kids out of their wits, even teachers can be thrown into a panic.
Analysis: separation anxiety levels are closely related to attachment of baby development stages. 6-24 months the baby is in attachment relationships flattened phases, and reached the peak in 24 months, that is, people started looking for them recently, and have a strong attachment to them. As long as the man out for a walk, he has no sense of security. Mother where? Does she not do I have? Must she not me! Baby is so misjudged. Therefore, in this age of baby most separation anxiety. 24 months later, the baby began to have the capacity to partner of attachment objects, to temporarily tolerate her mother for a moment, knowing that she will come back, and would not abandon its own. When you grow up to 36 months, baby on segregation was more correct judgment and ability to adapt. Because of the baby are living in now closed units in the building, together with adult more, less in contact with peers, this elongated attachment relationship between growth environment flattened phases, resulting in many baby phase to 30 months before entering the attachment object partners, thereby increasing the separation anxiety.
Anxiety mitigation method:
Mother in sunny weather to take baby out go go take a look at, accepted to provide training opportunities in the new environment.
Play a game of hide and seek with baby. Mother hid, father holding baby to find, but not soon to be baby found him \"mother will come back\" of consciousness, so that he could believe that sentence you say in front of the kindergarten is true: \"baby lamb, mother from work, I\'ll pick you up\".
24 months after the baby has begun to have attachment object partners of basic skills, mother to active Guide and nurture baby trust to others and a sense, not sentimental and deliberately \"Shan\" mood dependent mother does not care.
